Don't Waste Your Energy Giving to Selfish People

It can be a harsh reality to face but sometimes the people you love can be too selfish to waste your time with them. If you have a compassionate heart you can fall into the trap of giving to selfish people in the mistaken belief that you will receive what you need in return. Is there an area in your life where you are giving your best but receiving little or nothing in return? Stop. Look more carefully and you will see the empty pit that your energy is being poured into. It saddens me deeply to see people who are empty, closed off, self-absorbed, self-sabotaging and destructive because they have been deeply wounded in their heart and soul. It is even more heartbreaking to witness someone close to them desperately trying to fill, encourage, engage with or build up such an empty, draining person. Step back. You can't help them. You can't make a difference in their life. You can't do anything more and it's time to say enough is enough. It's time to discover the truth of who you are. In teaching Pathway Balancing this weekend, we opened and explored Gateway 13 'Having a Sense of Yourself as Being Sacred'. Many people go through life without being affirmed as uniquely precious. Perhaps their parents were always too busy, or self-absorbed or wrapped up in relational dramas. Without enough eye-contact, physical touch or a sense of being heard, it's hard for us to know if we really exist, let alone learn to know who we are. But love is always available if we decide it's time to find it. In the Britain of the 1950's and 1960's, the 21st Birthday was traditionally called 'the key of the door' when a son or daughter was considered old enough to be presented with their own front-door key and the freedom to come and go from the familly home. Now they were free to find the love they craved in the wider community. If their parents were selfish, the son or daughter could get away and find a life of their own. Hopefully there would be enough space to heal their invisible, emotional scars. If you see a pattern of selfish relationships in your own life, look for a safe community with enough loving people to go around and stick with it until you are healed. Give to people who give to you. It's time to enjoy the rewards of true love.  Corrina Kennedy, Peterborough.

Pathway Balancing practitioners are healed to care. To begin safely healing your own wounds from selfishness, contact us for an appointment, training or workshop booking on info@pathwaybalancing.co.uk